How to teach your child to handle big emotions like fear, anger, frustration and disappointment? Work on increasing their self-control with these strategies to help them think before they act.
Talk it out
One of the best was is to give them words to use when they are upset. Like if you can't find your keys you might say, "I feel so frustrated! Where did I last have them?" Then, when your child is frustrated (say, they misplaced their favorite toy), encourage him to use similar words. And "I" statements like, "I feel upset because I want my toy. I had it in my bedroom, maybe its in there." They will learn to talk through their problems and be less likely to cry or whine.
Preparing for situations where self-control is needed will helpful throughout their entire life.
you could say, "We're going to your friends house. Let's think about what you can do if they are playing with a toy you want." you could help them work through it with their words like, you may ask to join them, or you could ask to play with another toy until they are finished. Having a plan can help them avoid running into trouble like yelling or grabbing the toy.
When your child begins to get upset, help then find ways to keep calm. For instance they could take a deep breath, count to five, or draw a picture of how they are feeling. The distraction just might be enough to settle them down. And once they practice and use these techniques, they will be able to do them without a reminder from you.
More than one way
When your child is faced with a challenge, it can be fun for them to come up with more than one solution or possibility. stretching their thinking skills with these activities.
Puppet problem solving
This can be a fun engaging activity for you and your child. Offer a pretend dilemma for puppets, and help your child act out a solution. You could have the puppets say, "oh, no! I am mad! I have to many things to carry to school! How can I get all of my things to school?"
It's a routine, you pick up your child from school give them a big hug and go right into the questions to find out about their day. We are all guilty of doing it. We've missed then so it's natural natural to want to start talking to our little ones the moment we see them. But the typical response is a shrug or the dreaded "nothing"
Our children understand a lot but they are still learning the language skills to really express what they want to say and what they are feeling.
The goods new is that there is some simple ways to connect with your little ones, and have them open up! Here are some helpful insights.
Asking them question after a long day is the last thing that they want. They want to know that we are connecting with them before the 20 question come at them. So being present and offering to carry their backpack and helping them gather their things, letting them know how much you missed them is a great way to start the flow of conversation. This will set the stage.
Ask specific questions versus generic. For example, instead of asking "how was recess?" you could say " during recess did you play with Ben or George?" Asking for specifics will help them go back to that moment. From there it will have a snowball effect. we might not only learn who they played with but what they did outside. when you ask "did you have a good day?" or "did you have fun?" we are prompting for one work answers versus a dialogue.
Stay positive. If your child say something negative about their day it is really important that we don't over react! kids tend to shut down if our reactions are too much. You may feel the need to protect your child, and as a parent it is a fair concern. Unfortunately we cant be a fly on the wall, and much of the time the issue is much smaller then we might think. Instead of reacting with too much emotion, try to be empathetic and say " i;m so sorry that Johnny grabbed the toy out of your hand, hopefully tomorrow will be a better day."
Lastly, finding time in jam pact day sometimes feels impossible. We tend to be on the go. Bouncing from work to school to sports then home for dinner homework bath and bed. Try to take advantage of the regular moments in our day. Being in the car or bedtime are great for no pressure chats. setting aside time to talk to your child is important. Even 10 minuets! Giving them your full attention.
You want your child to enjoy talking to you. the more that they walk away from a conversation with you and think 'I feel better' the more that they will come back.
Having mixed feelings about sending your child to school? You are not alone. Many parents feel sad about their child growing up so fast. It's a big step for the both of you!
They are not the only ones that will need to get ready for this exciting adventure! Remember that they will take the lead from you.
-Keep Your Feelings To Yourself
Children can sense your emotions, what you say and your tone say communicate volumes to your child. If you are excited and positive about childcare, than your child will be too. Share all the positive aspects of childcare, like meeting new friends, playing games, learning new things and of course of exciting nature center!
-Talk And Listen
while you might spend a lot of time telling them all about the new and exciting things they will be doing at their new school don't forget to listen. Give them a chance to express their feelings. If they say the are scared or afraid to be away from you, that is okay, acknowledge their feelings but remain positive.
-Pretend and practice
One way to help them to become more comfortable and confident to practice through play! You can act out social situations that will happen at school.
~ Have them practice taking their coat off and hang it up
~ Play games and practice taking turns
~ Role play sharing situations
~ Read books together, especially about childcare
~ Washing hands, lining up and introducing themselves
-Prepare For Happy Goodbyes
Children love and need routine. Decide on a typical routine to send them off each day. Begin it on the very first day of school. Like a breakfast routine, a spacial song you sing together. Pick out a "secret" hug, handshake, or goodbye signal that only you and your child child will know. And save it for when you drop and pick up your child.
Lastly, its okay to stay for a few minuets, but not to long. Even if your child seems unhappy or fearful. Trust the caring, well trained professionals at Cozy Corner to provide a safe, fun, and nurturing environment for your child.